At the present time a lot of marriage is determined by the two pairs of bride dress itself. To enrich the understanding and preparation of the wedding, here's a description of the procedures and rules relating to marriage Palembang.
Candidates may be filed by the child to be mated, can also be filed by the parent. If nominated by parents, then they will first menginventariskan anyone who will be nominated, whose son and descendant of the family who.
Derived from the word Madik Javanese Kawi means toward or approach. Madik is a process of inquiry into a girl by the family pria.Tujuannya envoy for introductions, knowing the origin and each silsilahkeluarga and see if the girl is not no lover.
Menyengguk or sengguk derived from ancient Javanese language means to put a "fence" for her intended was not bothered by sengguk (sable countrymen, as a metaphor not disturb other virgin). Menyengguk ProsesMadikberhasil if well done, to show seriousness, great family man official delegation sent to the family of the gadis.Utusan brings tenong or sangkek made of woven bamboo, round or rectangular gold-embroidered batik cloth lunches containing foods, may also be egg, flour, butter, and so on according to the girl's family circumstances.
If sengguk process has reached the target, then the family returned from a visit with the men carrying tenong 3 pieces, each containing flour, sugar and duck eggs. This meeting is a sign that both sides of the family have "nemuke Kato" and agreed that the girl was 'bound' by the men. as a sign of the bond, the messenger man gives gift to the female form of cloth, clothing materials, or valuable objects such as a ring, necklace, or bracelet.
Malay is derived from reason, that deliberation to unite the two families became one big family. The meeting between the two sides of this family is meant to determine what is asked by the girl and what will be provided by the men. On that occasion, the girl had the opportunity to be introduced to the family man. Usually berasan atmosphere is filled with rhymes and strings attached. After the banquet, the two sides of the family have agreed on all terms of either marriage customs procedures and ordinances of Islam. On that occasion also ditetapkankapan the day of the event "mutuske Kato". In Palembang indigenous traditions known some of the requirements and procedures for the marriage to be agreed by both sides of the family, both Islamic Shari'a, and the customs. According to the Islamic Shari'a, both parties agreed on the amount of mahr or dowry, while the customs, the two sides will agree on what is customary to be implemented, if customary Tigo Down, custom Depart duo Penyeneng, Indigenous customary Departure Mudo, custom Slash, or wrapping Kadut, where each has its own equipment and requirements.
The event is aimed at both the families to make decisions in matters relating to: "Day ngantarke belanjo" wedding day, when munggah, Nyemputi and nganter bride, Ngalie Turon, Becacap or bath Simburan and Beratib. To determine the day of the event pernikahandan munggah, commonly selected Islamic months are believed to give blessing to the bride and groom later that month Robiul Beginning, End Robiul, Jumada, Muharram. The months are said dipercayah that the full moon was beautiful-beautiful light shining on the earth so it will be a torch of life for the bride and groom as bright as the full moon. When 'mutuske kato' entourage went to the residence of the family of man at which she was the man carrying 7 tenong which among other things contains sugar, flour, duck eggs, bananas and fruits. In addition to making these decisions, the men also gave (give) the customary requirements agreed upon during the event berasan. for example, if the agreed terms of customary Duo Penyeneng, then the man at the mutoske Kato handed her two pieces Tretes mider strapless, two pieces of clothes and a couple of brackets angkinan sewet cukitan songket. The end of the show mutuske kato closed with prayer and supplication safety in Allah that the implementation of marriage runs smoothly. Subsequent events prostration bride on future in-laws, where the prospective in-laws gave the gold to the bride as a token of his love. Towards the back 7 tenong the men exchanged by the woman with the typical Palembang stuffing snacks to take home.
Procession nganterke belanjo usually a month or half a month or a few days before the event munggah. The procession was mostly done by women, whereas men only accompaniment. Spending money (money belanjo) incorporated in ponjen attributes shaped yellow mangosteen. Delivery of the groom is also equipped with trays of at least 12 pieces contains various party purposes, which include flour, sugar, canned fruits, to pastries and snacks. More than that delivered pula'enjukan 'or request a predetermined time mutuske kato, which is a custom implementation of one of the conditions of marriage according to the agreement. Gegawaan shape, also called the Palembang 'custom ngelamar' of the men (as agreed) to the ladies in the form of a yellow ponjen contains a dilentakan belanjo money in the tray, a ponjen smaller yellow bridesmaid containing money money belanjo, 14 ponjen Small yellow fill metal coins as accompanist belanjo money, a piece of songket shawl, songket baju kurung, a yellow ponjen contain uang'timbang bride '12 trays of various kinds of party supplies, and covered cluster of embroidered lace fabric.
Preparation of the Covenant of Marriage
There are some rituals that are usually performed on brides who usually believed efficacious for health beauty, which betangas. Betangas is steam, then Bebedak after betangas, and dating (berinai) given to all toenails and hands and the soles of the hands and feet called seam.
Akad Nikah ceremony
Uniting two lovers become husband and wife to enter the life of housekeeping. The ceremony was held at the groom, if held at the bride, it says 'marry ride'. However, in accordance with the development of the now ritual ceremony took place dikediaman bride. By tradition when Muggah ceremony before the event, the first woman envoy ngantarke the dagger into the man's residence.
Ngocek Onions termed to prepare early in the day munggah. Tapup installation, preparation of spices and other cooking prepared on this day. Ngocek kecik onion is done two days before the event munggah.
Then on the next day the day before munggah, do Besak ngocek onions. Throughout spadework and fire all the preparations that have not been completed at this time. Meat, chicken and other prepared when munggah, inviting (ngulemi) besannya home, and the party in ulemi during ngocek onions must come, usually are at this time sent two people are women and men.
The procession is the culmination of a series of events Palembang traditional marriage. Today munggah usually set between post-holiday Idul Fitri and Idul Adha. On the morning before the event, from the bride comes to the groom (ngulemi) by sending a pair of men & women.
As well as involving many families the bride and groom, as well as invited guests attended. Munggah means that the bride and groom married life is always balanced or considerate, harmonious and peaceful. Implementation munggah held at the residence of the bride's family. Before the procession starts first munggah shaped formation of the group the man who will lead the residence of the bride's family home. Before the procession starts first munggah formed formations to be home pengatin women. Formation are:
Set (group) Rudat and Kuntau
Pengatin man flanked by two parents, two men carrying spears, an umbrella carrier bride, accompanied by a spokesman, the carrier and the carrier ponjen langsih flowers indigenous and traditional ornaments and gegawan carrier.
Nyanjoi done while night after munggah and after nyemputi. Nyanjoi customarily performed twice, the first night came nyanjoi youth group, the second night of the old folks. Similarly, in the aftermath of the besan nyemputi by men.
Two days after the event nyemputi munggah customarily done. Bridal party with a group of men came to visit the place of the bride menjemputi them, while of the women were ready to nganter to the bridal party. During nyemputi bride groom's home crowd was disiapkanacara (celebration). Celebrations were conducted for women's new bride was conducted in the 1960s, whereas previously no.
During the besan nganter bride by this man, in-laws house she had prepared simburan shower event. Simburan bath is done to welcome the night introduction between the groom with the bride. This introductory evening is waiting for the completion of the task of Jeru the women assigned to manage and provide instructions on how to implement the program for the event while the implementation of marriage. Women wait Jeru can act as a safety guard penanggal or ongoing selauruh weddings are likely to be no interference from people who are not happy.
In Palembang traditional marriage ceremony, the role of women is very domonan, because hampirseluruh event activities for the event organized and conducted by them. Parties prepare men only "ponjen money". The event was held by the men only way that marriage and beratib event celebration event when the whole marriage ceremony was completed.
Sources: Mahligai "Custom Wedding Inspiration Palembang", 5th Edition 2007